It is also a known fact that many couples here in the
Philippines live together out of wedlock, not because they don’t want to be
married, but because of the cost. Like
in the U.S., weddings are expensive. A
lavish meal is even expected as part of the ceremony. Also, completing a marriage license can be
difficult for a couple when government officials insist on bribes before they
approve the license.
So, when a sweet young couple in one of our churches asked
me to officiate their wedding, I referred them to one of our pastors. Unfortunately, that pastor was leaving for
the U.S., leaving only one other pastor who had a marriage license. “Mark,” he said, “why don’t you just
officiate the wedding and I will sign the certificate.” I agreed.
A Filipino wedding is complicated. In addition to the traditional parts in
American weddings (giving away the bride, the message, exchange of vows and
rings, and the pronouncement) Filipino weddings add the recognition of
sponsors, the giving of coins, the covering of the veil, and the wrapping of
the cord. But no problem, I knew there
would be a rehearsal the night before the wedding and I could familiarize
myself with how to conduct these parts of the ceremony.
However, other than the couple, the principle people in the
ceremony didn’t show up for the rehearsal.
Most Filipinos just don’t see the need for it. Unless there is a meal, why come? So, the rehearsal time was cut short and
since I was over 2 hours away from home, I spent the night in a cheap hotel.
The ceremony was scheduled to begin at 9 the next morning
but, in typical fashion, began closer to 10 a.m. The view from the seaside “resort” was
beautiful. From the outdoor podium
shaded by palm trees, I could see distant islands surrounded by deep blue ocean
water. When I asked, “who gives away the
bride”, her parents had to be alerted and nudged that this is where they were
supposed to say something. During a
special number, I even had to step aside and ask a friend to explain to me the
meaning of the vail and cord.
At various points in the ceremony a few people had to be
instructed ‘on the run’, but overall the event proceeded relatively well. The message gave me an opportunity to explain
God’s purposes for marriage and the difference between a contract and a
covenant. All seemed pleased with the
ceremony, especially with the meal that followed. Despite the inconveniences and lapses, I was
blessed to play a small part in the union of a godly couple.
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